You do you.

Having said that, your comment can be summed up as "feminist should prioritize men's feelings to anything else, even if it means stopping making advances and just be happy with whatever they already have".

I mean, there is no diplomatic way that we can say that rape still happens and that some men support the rapist because is their friend. Or because they identify with the rapist because he is a "bright young men with such a bright future that can't be ruined by 5 minutes of action". Or variations of that. There is no diplomatic way to say "I'm paid less for doing the same job". Or "you keep interrupting me at meeting". Or "It is disrespectful to grab my crotch without consent". We can go on, but my point is, most of the things that we need to say if we want equality, are not easy to say and are going to hurt men's feelings. Not just that, we expect men to be able on their own without special help to know when we are talking about them and when it doesn't apply to them, but to other men.

I mean, sure, we were there when they broke up and were sad. And we listened when they have the worst day at work and were unfairly passed for a promotion because the boss' child was promoted instead. And sure, we helped cooking or taking care when you were sick, but complaining about our bad days, or the guy who groped us in the public transport is hating men if the ones who treat us badly were men. Specially if they were men known to you, because that puts you on the spot. You might even like or be friends with that men! And doing something might ruin that friendship. So it is better to tells us that "if we love you, we would just stop saying this things". After all, you already support us because you think afghanistan is wrong and in the hypothetical case that an stranger that you don't like were the one who attack us, then you would protect us. So never mind our real lives and struggles, better that we just "suck it up" while telling you how good you are to us so we would get your support on... well, whatever you feel to support us when it is convenient to you, of course. And in the meanwhile, we better left everything to help you out in your struggles which would always be more important.

But maybe you are right, maybe we should stop thinking that after supporting men most of our lives, they would do the same back. Maybe we just should assume we are on our own and cut our losses. Stop being there for the men in our lives, since they are not going to be there for us.

I'll leave you with one of those things that are usually said to us: "Don't be angry, you look better with a smile".