You probably can be desirable and cool to someone. But it is not about a job or being breadwinner, is about connecting with someone. And for that the 7/10 doesn't work at all. Basically, you need to find someone that you can look and like enough to just not care in which point of the scale is. That you can toletare her flaws. And that person must like you back and be able to tolerate your flaws. And then you would need to negotiate conflicts and support each other. All this is difficult. But it is even more difficult if you waste your time listening to others opinions instead of paying attention to your own feelings and tastes. The only other person you need to listen is the one you want to be with (and sometimes that means accepting that person don't want to be with you and keep looking). Everything else is just distraction.