You want to be a househusband. That implies that the other person must be able to afford it. That translates as a high income.

As for what "most men" want, as I explained, they either want the professional housewife (which is a lot more work that you admit) or someone that carries her weight (which implies a career). It is not that they would ask her is she is going to be a "high earner", but at the end of the day, people look for someone who have a house (even if it is rented), pay their bills, etc. And all that requirers the job and the career.